Is Today The Day Your Marriage Turns Around?
So here are 6 ideas that may just save your marriage!
At first, she pushed back fiercely.
Like many of us, Sarah had been conditioned to believe that putting herself first was wrong.
But as we continued our conversations, she started to see that by taking care of herself—by investing in her own well-being—she could actually be a better wife, mother, and person overall.
So, she began to change her mindset.
She started taking time for herself each day, even if it was just 20 minutes to exercise, read, or meditate.
She made space for activities that brought her joy and fulfillment.
Slowly, she felt her energy return, her mood improve, and she became more present in her marriage.
This isn’t about neglecting your partner’s needs, but about understanding that focusing on your own growth, fulfillment, and happiness is essential for long-term success.
Let me share a story that shows how embracing this kind of selfishness can change everything.
Emily was in a place that many married people find themselves after years of being together.
She had spent most of her marriage putting her husband and children first.
She thought this was the right thing to do—sacrifice her time, her goals, and even her passions to keep the family running smoothly.
Over time, though, it took it's toll.
She was exhausted.
The things that used to bring her joy—her hobbies, her dreams, her ambitions—had faded into the background, and she felt like she had lost a part of herself.
Her relationship with her husband was strained, and the emotional intimacy that once brought them close had all but disappeared.
Emily felt stuck.
She had given everything to her marriage, so why was it falling apart?
When Emily reached out to me, she was desperate for answers.
I listened as she explained how she had done everything to make her marriage work—putting everyone else’s needs above her own.
That’s when I told her something she wasn’t expecting: "You need to embrace a little selfishness."
She was shocked
Like so many others, Emily thought selfishness was the enemy of love.
But I explained that healthy selfishness—the kind where you invest in your own happiness and growth—was not just important, but essential.
I asked her to reflect on this: How can you be the best version of yourself in your marriage if you’re constantly running on empty?
At first, Emily pushed back.
How could focusing on herself improve her relationship?
But after some thought, she realized that she had neglected her own needs for so long that she had nothing left to give to her marriage.
Emily began to carve out time for herself. She started going for long walks in the morning, which helped her clear her mind.
She rekindled her love for painting—something she hadn’t touched in years.
She even started working towards a personal goal she had put on hold for too long.
Something remarkable happened as she embraced this new approach.
The more Emily focused on her own growth and fulfillment, the better she felt.
She was happier, more confident, and more engaged in life.
And her husband?
He noticed the change.
The distance between them began to close, and they started connecting emotionally again.
Instead of draining herself to keep the relationship afloat, Emily found that by investing in herself, she had more energy and positivity to bring into the relationship.
Her husband was drawn to her renewed sense of purpose and happiness, and their relationship began to flourish.
As Mark began to release the pressure he had placed on himself, he experienced something he didn't expect—relief.
He realized that by constantly focusing on Karen’s happiness, he had neglected his own.
He had stopped doing the things that made him feel fulfilled, thinking that if he could just make her happy, everything would fall into place.
Mark started making changes.
He began reconnecting with old hobbies and passions that he had let slip away over the years.
He took time to focus on his own personal growth and self-care, without feeling guilty for it.
And the result?
Not only was Mark happier, but because he wasn’t constantly trying to fix Karen’s feelings, there was less pressure on their relationship.
Karen noticed that Mark was more relaxed, more present, and, ironically, more attentive.
As he focused on his own fulfillment, the energy in their marriage shifted.
Karen started to feel more engaged, and the emotional distance between them began to close.
Mark had learned one of the most valuable lessons of all: When you’re fulfilled on your own, you show up as the best version of yourself in your marriage—and that naturally creates a stronger connection.
Dan and Melissa were skeptical at first, but they decided to give it a try.
Instead of avoiding conflict, they committed to addressing their disagreements head-on, but with new rules in place.
They learned how to argue with respect—focusing on the issue at hand rather than attacking each other.
They started using phrases like, “This is how I feel,” instead of “You always do this.”
They also made a pact: no matter how heated the conversation became, they would always take a pause if emotions got out of hand, and return to the discussion when they both felt calmer.
Over time, something amazing happened.
Their arguments became constructive, not destructive.
They began to see that disagreements weren’t a threat to their relationship but an opportunity to better understand each other.
When Melissa voiced her frustrations about feeling unsupported at home, Dan didn’t take it as an attack anymore.
Instead, he saw it as a chance to make improvements.
Similarly, when Dan expressed his concerns about finances, Melissa listened without getting defensive.
In learning to argue well, Dan and Melissa didn’t just resolve their issues—they became closer.
They rebuilt the emotional safety in their relationship, knowing they could speak their minds without it leading to a fight or stonewalling.
Results-Oriented, Not Problem-Oriented: Traditional therapy often revolves around discussing problems week after week, without clear steps to move forward. At Better Marriage, we focus on solutions and behaviors that drive positive change. We help you take immediate action to improve your communication, deepen your emotional connection, and strengthen your relationship—no matter where you’re starting from.
For Individuals and Couples: If your spouse isn’t fully on board yet—or if you’re working on this journey alone—you can still create positive change. Many of our clients have started by applying these principles on their own and have seen dramatic improvements in their marriage. Of course, our program is equally powerful for couples working together, providing tools that benefit both partners. But the beauty of our method is that it doesn’t depend on waiting for your spouse to make the first move
Learn How to Argue Well: Conflict doesn’t mean your relationship is failing. In fact, as we’ve discussed, learning how to argue effectively—without tearing each other down—can be a powerful tool for building trust and emotional safety. At Better Marriage, we teach you the skills to turn arguments into opportunities for deeper understanding and connection.
Focus on Fulfillment, Not Sacrifice: We don’t believe that self-sacrifice leads to a better marriage. What we teach is that true fulfillment in a relationship comes from both partners feeling happy and fulfilled individually. When you stop trying to make your partner happy and focus on your own growth, you show up as the best version of yourself—and that’s what strengthens your relationship.
Mindset Shifts for Long-Term Success: Through our guided program, you’ll learn how to shift your mindset in ways that allow you to approach your marriage from a place of strength and clarity. You don’t have to wait for your partner to change—you can start making changes in yourself, and watch as that positively impacts your relationship.
Tools for Immediate Action: You’ll receive tools that you can implement immediately—tools that go beyond talk and theory. Whether it’s learning how to communicate better, handle conflicts constructively, or reconnect emotionally, you’ll have everything you need to create lasting change.
Support for Every Stage: Whether you’re navigating the journey alone or working with your spouse, Better Marriage is here to support you. We’ve helped thousands of couples, from those on the verge of divorce to those looking to take their already strong relationship to the next level.
Live group coaching sessions: Guided by experts who specialize in the challenges and dynamics of both men and women, as well as couples.
Specialized male and female coaches: Providing insights tailored to your unique needs and experiences.
Relationship enhancement materials: Giving you practical tools and exercises you can work through in your own time.
A supportive community of people going through the same journey: Giving you accountability and fresh perspectives.
Here's what you get:
Live group coaching sessions
Unlimted sessions per week
Specialized male and female coaches
Relationship enhancement materials
No Contract - Cancel anytime
Spouse Program Included - No extra cost
Total value: $1200 per month
Free For 7-Days Then Just $297 Per Month
"Best decision I've ever made!"
"I can't begin to tell you the profound impact this had had on my life" - Mark
Cody Butler is a world-renowned Relationship Coach, recognized for his profound influence in the field of personal and relationship development.
With a global reach spanning 7 countries, Cody has helped over 5,000 couples rediscover connection, rebuild trust, and reignite love, using his unique, faith-based approach.
Featured on Fox News, bestselling author of three #1 Amazon books, and trusted by marriage therapists for his results-oriented methods,
Cody has set the standard for modern marriage coaching. Cody’s journey to becoming a leading expert wasn’t a straightforward one.
Before he began coaching, Cody was a highly successful entrepreneur who faced immense pressure and ultimately turned to alcohol to cope.
The struggles that followed took a toll on his life and led to the collapse of his marriage, leaving him battling anxiety, stress, and the inability to cope.
It was this deeply personal experience that sparked his transformation and ignited his passion to help others.
The lessons Cody learned during his own dark period are now the foundation of the life-altering programs he provides to men, women, and couples who want more than just superficial fixes—they want lasting change.
What makes Cody’s approach stand out in a crowded marketplace is his no-nonsense, practical approach.
He’s not here to sell quick-fix solutions or gimmicky scripts that claim to save marriages in 30 days. Cody’s programs focus on deep personal development because he believes the key to saving a marriage isn’t getting your spouse to change—it’s working on yourself.
This philosophy—"work harder on yourself than on your marriage"—has helped thousands of couples realize that their marriage wasn’t broken; it was their mindset and their approach that needed an overhaul.
Cody is the founder of Better Marriage, where he offers a range of personal growth and marriage enhancement programs, including his flagship "Reboot Your Marriage Bootcamp" and the "Platinum Membership", which delivers continuous, cutting-edge relationship content each month.
His teachings don’t just address the external symptoms of marital struggles but dive deep into the internal transformations necessary for true, lasting success.
Cody’s programs are known for being highly actionable, focusing on real-world results that couples can see and feel, often within days of starting.
Today, Cody is not just a relationship coach—he’s a mentor and guide, helping people break free from outdated relationship advice and embrace a new way of thinking.
Whether you’re working alone or with your partner, Cody’s programs are designed to meet you where you are and guide you toward a stronger, more fulfilling marriage.
Lama is a compassionate professional with a deep passion for supporting women on their personal growth journeys, she provides a safe environment where women can rediscover their voices, heal from emotional wounds, and thrive. Lama’s work transforms lives, guiding women toward a healthier, more fulfilling future.
Jenny is celebrating 50 years of marriage this year, bringing a lifetime of successful experience to her work. Passionate about supporting women and couples, she draws on her vast knowledge to help others build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Jenny’s dedication and wisdom make her a trusted guide for those seeking lasting marital success.
Rob is a dedicated professional with a wealth of experience, providing a combined 100 years of wisdom alongside his wife, Jenny.
Together, they guide couples toward stronger, more fulfilling relationships, drawing on their shared lifetime of marital success to offer valuable insights and support.
Justin is a dedicated men’s coach specializing in personal development and success mindset. With a passion for helping men unlock their full potential, he guides them toward personal growth and a stronger, more fulfilled life. Justin’s work empowers men to embrace a mindset of success and achieve their goals.
Rhoni is the Head of Customer Experience, dedicated to ensuring that your time with us is smooth and enjoyable.
With a focus on delivering exceptional service, Rhoni is committed to making every interaction positive and seamless.
Cody is a highly respected Christian relationship coach who has helped over 5,000 couples in 7 countries rebuild and strengthen their marriages. As a bestselling author and trusted expert, Cody brings a no-nonsense, results-driven approach to marriage coaching, empowering couples to create lasting change through personal development and faith-based guidance
Alex is the Head of Men’s Pastoral Care, combining a wide array of qualifications with years of experience. His unique blend of cutting-edge education and practical expertise allows him to offer unparalleled support and guidance to men, helping them navigate personal and spiritual growth.
Nigel is a dedicated men’s marriage coach with a passion for helping men strengthen their relationships.
Drawing on his expertise, Nigel supports men in navigating the complexities of marriage, empowering them to create deeper connections and more fulfilling partnerships.
Male-specific and female-specific coaches: You’ll have access to coaches who specialize in the specific dynamics and challenges faced by men and women in relationships. Whether you’re looking to understand your partner better or working on your own personal growth, these coaches are here to help.
Couples sessions: We offer sessions specifically designed for couples, where you can work together with your partner and learn tools that enhance communication, trust, and intimacy.
Better Marriage combines relationship enhancement materials with live group coaching to provide a comprehensive, action-driven approach to improving your marriage.
You’ll receive access to male-specific, female-specific, and couple-focused coaching, as well as an ever-growing library of tools, guides, and exercises to use at your own pace.
The program is designed to deliver real results through mindset shifts and practical actions, rather than just talking about problems.
Many people initially seek one-on-one coaching because they want personalized attention. However, group coaching offers several unique advantages:
Shared perspectives: Hearing from others in similar situations provides new insights and ideas you might not discover on your own.
Accountability and support: Being part of a group creates a built-in support system, keeping you motivated and engaged.
Real-time solutions: Our expert coaches make sure everyone’s challenges are addressed, and you’ll often learn valuable strategies from others’ experiences as well. The dynamic of group coaching leads to powerful breakthroughs and can be just as, if not more, effective than individual coaching.
Availabiity: We hold coaching sessions daily so you don't need to schedule a session and then wait when a problem happens. You're only ever a few hours away from support.
What if my spouse isn’t willing to participate or is reluctant?
That’s okay! You don’t need both partners to start making progress.
Many of our clients begin working on themselves first, and they quickly see positive changes in the relationship.
Often, one partner’s growth and mindset shift create a ripple effect that inspires the other to engage more over time.
Our program is designed to work for individuals or couples.
How does Better Marriage compare to traditional therapy?
Traditional therapy typically focuses on talking through problems, often at a high cost, with sessions once a week. Better Marriage takes a different approach:
-We focus on action and behavior changes, not just discussions.
-Our live coaching sessions are virtual, saving you time and money.
-You’ll have access to ongoing support and resources—not just weekly sessions—so you can implement changes in real time.
-Traditional therapy can cost $800 to $1,200 per month, while Better Marriage provides more comprehensive support for just $297 per month.
We offer a 7-day free trial so you can experience everything Better Marriage has to offer without any risk.
During the trial, you’ll have full access to our live coaching sessions, relationship enhancement materials, and community support.
If for any reason you don’t feel it’s right for you, you can cancel at any time during the trial with no obligations
That’s entirely up to you! Our program is flexible and designed to fit into busy lives. You can attend live coaching sessions, work through the relationship materials at your own pace, and engage with the community as much or as little as you want.
Whether you have 30 minutes a day or just a couple of hours a week, you’ll find value in the program.
Yes! Better Marriage has helped many couples who were on the brink of separation or divorce.
Our approach focuses on addressing the root causes of relationship struggles and providing practical tools to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection.
Whether you’re at a crossroads or just looking to strengthen your marriage, this program is designed to meet you where you are.
Once you sign up, you’ll receive immediate access to the program. You’ll be able to:
-Join live coaching sessions with expert coaches.
-Access relationship-building materials and exercises.
-Start implementing strategies to improve your marriage right away.
You’ll also be welcomed into our community of like-minded individuals who are working on their relationships, giving you support and accountability from day one.
No problem! All live coaching sessions are recorded, so if you can’t make it, you can watch the replays at your convenience. You won’t miss any important insights or guidance
Yes! You’re not locked into a long-term contract. If you decide that the program isn’t the right fit for you after the free trial or at any point during your subscription, you can cancel at any time with no penalty.
Our program is designed to help couples at all stages of their relationship—from newlyweds who want to strengthen their foundation to couples who have been together for years and are facing more serious challenges.
Whether you’re trying to reignite your connection or rebuild trust after years of distance, our tools and coaching will guide you toward positive changes.
Yes, in addition to live coaching, you’ll have access to our private community where you can ask questions, share experiences, and receive support from both coaches and fellow participants